It does however, sound more promising than either of us had hoped for.
The counselor said he had never met a couple as civil as we are. We are 90/10; 90% good & 10% messed up. Not that that 10% isn't very important, but couples where we are do not usually seek help or mention the D word.
When the 10% is a lack of an emotional connection, then there are days when it feels like 90% . We have another apt next week.
We went for dinner afterwards to talk. I am not to ask him for sex anymore because I make him feel "obligated". I know this sound horrible, but I have to tell you that getting him to talk to me about this shit is so rare, I feel it is progress. Not that it did't hurt, it did. It still does. He did tell me that I am beautiful and very sexy; he just doesn't see me that way.
Is that like "I love you but I am not in love with you."?
"You are desirable, I just don't find you desirable."
Very similar............
He left for vacation a week ago Friday. I have spoken to him twice during that time and both were very short conversations. He has text me about as often. And I know I told him not to worry about calling me every night to check in, but a little more communication would be nice.
This past Wednesday, I took the girls on a 6 hour road trip to visit a friend. The trip has been fun and we are on the "no plan" plan so it has been very laid bad.
There have been down times when I want to text or call him to tell him I miss him. But I don't. I tell myself if he really cared or thought about me, he would be calling or texting me. I would just be bothering him.
He flies home today and we won't be back until tomorrow afternoon. I wish he missed me. I wish he had wanted me to go with him. But I cannot make him feel anything and he appears content to remain that way.
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