Rough Day

I started to write tonight because my husband has been out all day with coworkers to a wedding.  One he didn't think it was appropriate for his wife to attend.  It was a small ceremony on a golf course and he was asked to preform the ceremony and then they were all going to play 18 holes.  I asked him before he left why the bride didn't want his wife there.  He said something about the number of players.
He called several hours later to tell me that the bride said he should have brought his wife...... he said he felt like an ass.  Then he proceeded to tell me that they were all going back to the newlyweds house to hang out for awhile and then he'd be home.
Apparently he didn't feel like enough of an ass to ask his wife to join him.  I am trying but sometimes I just want to hit him over the head with something extremely large and heavy............ like a transit bus.  Really?
So, I hang out.  Clean the kitchen, do some laundry, watch Glee with my daughter (I hate that show, but I love her).  He finally calls me just a few moments ago to tell me our son-in-law has invited him to play pool and he wants to know if I mind.  I was speechless.
I said of course not.  But then I had to take it back.  I told him everything about today bothered me and though I was desperately trying to pretend it didn't.........it really did.
"So, you want me to call D and tell him that I won't make it?"
Silence.
"Hello?"
"No.  I want you to go.  I can't make you want to come home and spend time with me or ask me to come along.  So no, go.......... play pool."
I know I cannot expect him to read my mind.  But a little common courtesy would be nice.  Mutual respect.
Maybe I am just asking for too much.
Maybe I should just start with the small things............... Like loyalty. Faithfulness.
Or........... are those too much?
He just called me back.  He is on his way home instead of playing pool.  Only now.......... I'm already mad.